Lonely?

So! My first "on demand" blogging! About loneliness! My pro tips to not being lonely... I'm a pro now.... yeh.. you heard me... I AM A PRO! Or something.... anyway...

This is about the not having a boyfriend/girlfriend kinda lonely by the way. As there are quite a few ways to feel lonely, which I might get back to later on this blog!

I think the first mistake when you are alone is to be bothered about it, whats  so bad about being alone? When you go around feeling lonely, you usually end up over  thinking everyone of the opposite sex says too you... Clinging to every thing that can be interpreted as flirting because you desperately want it to be! 
That rarely ends well... you can scare off potential new friends or even guys/girls that do like you by being too needy.

It's a evil circle that makes you more and more insecure and lonely, and therefore more and more needy and less likely to meet someone. People notice when you are really needy, at least it's easy to see if you are somewhat decent at reading people, and it's.. well let's face it.. Unattractive.. It's not what most people look for in a new potential partner. 

The only way to get better is to work with yourself, a lot.. I realize that is pretty much what I say in every blog about problems... fix it your self... but it's the only thing that really helps! You can get some person that will care enough to try help you but in the end other people can't all ways fix your problems. You got to step up and change!
More about change here! ;)


Start off with when you think someone is flirting with you, consider it for a few minutes... If you saw that person say the same thing to a different person... would it still seem like flirting to you? If not. It was not. Unless they tried to touch you or something.. O.o That is a obvious sign that you are special too them! Or they are slutty... 
Don't get emotionally involved in some random words someone said to you when they were drunk! Be more hard to get damn it! 
You pretty much have to care less... I'm not saying be a dick and act cocky.. But don't jump on every word your told and pray for flirting. Just chill! 

Soon as you calm down a bit, and you're not THAT needy, people will see a difference. You will seem more sure of yourself and stronger in general. Stand tall and be proud of yourself! It's attractive! For both men and women! :) At least it is for the kind of person you should want to attract... you don't want the kind of person that wants a weak partner... That's no good!  

Mood influences

It's so fascinating how your mood can influence how you see things... I got some nice examples lately that made me think... sometime last week it was pouring rain and winds strong enough to carry off a pony! My lovely "little" puppy was filled with energy and driving me crazy. The thoughts I had that day was "Shitty weather and stupid hyper dog, can't even take him outside for a proper walk to drain some energy without getting soaked... God, this is going to be a horrible day." And so it was... Because I was walking around being annoyed by the weather and the dog that wasn't going to get enough exercise for the day. When we did go out I was so annoyed with getting wet and cold and the dog was running around me like crazy pulling on his leash. CRAP DAY! I was annoyed, wet, cold and smelled like wet dog! PFT! 

But.. today! It's raining even more..  and loads more wind... And I didn't even think about how it would be annoying to get wet from the rain ect... I took puppy out to play and run around in the rain for a while, we both came back inside and dried off, then cuddled up with each other and it was super cozy! And just as I sat here looking out the window thinking this was a nice and cozy day with my lovely dog I realized the irony in it... How I hated the exact same day last week, but this week it was wonderful! Stupid mind making me have crappy days when I don't have to... Fuck you brain! 

So I've now decided... I'm not letting that stupid brain decide if I have a good or bad day anymore! At least I'm going to try not to... probably going to be a bit difficult at times but ah well! Can't whine if you don't try to make it better huh?

From now on every time I wake up and  think for some reason this day is going to be bad.. I'm going to take 5 min to remind myself what I would do in this case if I was having a good day! And try do some of that same stuff! I'm pretty sure it will help! And if not... I will still have the right to say I tried!

(Cuddles with my baby!)

The Right People

Lately I've been realizing that there are the right kind of people and the wrong kind of people you can surround yourself with.

 

The wrong kind is the people that when you speak to them you have to sit and think before you answer to make sure you say the right thing, if you say the wrong thing it's a huge pile of drama. 

 

The wrong kind is the people that drains your energy, after hanging out with them you just want to sleep and not talk to anyone for a while.

The wrong kind is the people that make you not want to have friends, family or any more contact with society really. 

But then there is the right kind of people!

The right kind is the people that even on a crap day they make you forget you're upset.

The right kind is the people that when you are tired they will make you act like a hyper active happy child instead of falling asleep.

The right kind is the people that makes you feel like you do have the strength to deal with the world, day after day. 

When the world seems to hate you, and makes your life continuously shit, you NEED the right kind of people around you, as hippy like as it sounds you need people with good energy!

In my opinion the general people you include in your everyday life should be a source of happiness and enjoyment, why have friends or stay close with family who don't make you happy? You might make someone upset by staying away from them, but don't waste your energy on people that only leech! Use it on people that deserve it.

If you have a friend or a family member that makes you feel better just by having a conversation about anything at all, then make sure they know you love them to bits! And that you really appreciate the fact you are lucky enough to have them in your life. 

Those of you who are like this to me I believe you all ready do know, at least my friends do (and to my mum this concerns you too!). I love you so much! And I could not go a day without you all. You give me strength and make me smile! And I hope I can be a "right kind of person" to you guys as well! :)