When am I not "too young? (NAV logic).

This kind of thing is very popular to complain about in Norway, NAV as it is called here, is the social support system we have, similar to the dole in the UK.
It helps us get jobs, or helps us with money untill we get jobs, or support you for life if you got a disability ect! It does sound a bit silly that this is the system we complain a lot about here... but it is! Because it's a very faulty system, it gives support to lazy people who can't be arsed to work and it sometimes let sick people fall into the cracks of the system and it really fucks people over. 

Now this is not what I am going to write about, because in general I think the system works as well as you can expect, it deals with thousands of people every single day and MOST do get the help that they need. What I do not like with this office is that they hire anyone who can do the jobs in their office, at least this is how I see it. I have been in this system ever since I was old enough to be "their problem"! Every person involved with them get's their own case worker... I've had a few... and oh my f'ing god. THEY ARE MORONS. I met ONE person, that had actually read my file thru all these years there, ONE person who had any clue what would be a realistic goal for me, ONE person who listened and actually cared what my life ended up being. Clearly this is not the person who I get to stick with as my contact there, that would be too easy...

The people that know me are aware that I do not work, I can not work and I probably will never be able to keep a full time job, maybe with the right help I will in a few years be able to do part time! So I get support from NAV! (Despite the silly people that work there.) And I really appreciate the fact that I do get help and I am able to live on my own with the help form this system. Thank you Norway <3 (Despite the silly people that work there.)

But now... I have a question... I once again am looking for logic in something I've been told and I cannot find it! The very first time I went to a meeting with NAV, I believe I was about 17 back then, we were discussing what kind of support I should get from them and I had papers from doctors and all the needed stuff to prove I needed their help long term. But yet they insisted I only needed a temporary setup because "You are too young to settle with this support! You will get better and get a job soon so you don't need us anymore!" Ok, I can get that... IF that was even remotely realistic.... I told them and doctors told them that I was not going to be able to get better soon! So please give me long term help.. but they refused... 
I settled with that, because I kinda saw their point.. even tho my papers said I had been unable to do this for a loooong time, they had not seen it for themselves. So OK, I'll give them a couple of years and maybe they will give me long term help then! So I don't have to wonder every month if I will have money to pay my bills this time....

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It's now been 5 years. They still tell me I'm too young to get long term help... so I still have to wonder every month... and hope it will work out with the bills. It mostly does! Thank god for that!  But it's starting to annoy me now... When am I old enough to earn the right to long term help? Are they just hoping I'll stop asking one day so they won't have to pay me properly? It's not like it's a lot more I get from them as in cash, but what I do get is the right to get a loan from a bank, help to buy a house or a car... I can't qualify for anything as it is now, because I am listed as "temporary" with them.
This is clearly bullshit, why are they doing this? It's not their personal money? They clearly know I am going to need their help forever... So WHYYYY! What's the point? Just to be assholes? I think that must be it. 

I will just keep nagging them till they give in... maybe when I am older then the case worker they assign me I won't be too young anymore... ...

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assholes...

More logical then NAV workers:

Lonely?

So! My first "on demand" blogging! About loneliness! My pro tips to not being lonely... I'm a pro now.... yeh.. you heard me... I AM A PRO! Or something.... anyway...

This is about the not having a boyfriend/girlfriend kinda lonely by the way. As there are quite a few ways to feel lonely, which I might get back to later on this blog!

I think the first mistake when you are alone is to be bothered about it, whats  so bad about being alone? When you go around feeling lonely, you usually end up over  thinking everyone of the opposite sex says too you... Clinging to every thing that can be interpreted as flirting because you desperately want it to be! 
That rarely ends well... you can scare off potential new friends or even guys/girls that do like you by being too needy.

It's a evil circle that makes you more and more insecure and lonely, and therefore more and more needy and less likely to meet someone. People notice when you are really needy, at least it's easy to see if you are somewhat decent at reading people, and it's.. well let's face it.. Unattractive.. It's not what most people look for in a new potential partner. 

The only way to get better is to work with yourself, a lot.. I realize that is pretty much what I say in every blog about problems... fix it your self... but it's the only thing that really helps! You can get some person that will care enough to try help you but in the end other people can't all ways fix your problems. You got to step up and change!
More about change here! ;)


Start off with when you think someone is flirting with you, consider it for a few minutes... If you saw that person say the same thing to a different person... would it still seem like flirting to you? If not. It was not. Unless they tried to touch you or something.. O.o That is a obvious sign that you are special too them! Or they are slutty... 
Don't get emotionally involved in some random words someone said to you when they were drunk! Be more hard to get damn it! 
You pretty much have to care less... I'm not saying be a dick and act cocky.. But don't jump on every word your told and pray for flirting. Just chill! 

Soon as you calm down a bit, and you're not THAT needy, people will see a difference. You will seem more sure of yourself and stronger in general. Stand tall and be proud of yourself! It's attractive! For both men and women! :) At least it is for the kind of person you should want to attract... you don't want the kind of person that wants a weak partner... That's no good!  

Mood influences

It's so fascinating how your mood can influence how you see things... I got some nice examples lately that made me think... sometime last week it was pouring rain and winds strong enough to carry off a pony! My lovely "little" puppy was filled with energy and driving me crazy. The thoughts I had that day was "Shitty weather and stupid hyper dog, can't even take him outside for a proper walk to drain some energy without getting soaked... God, this is going to be a horrible day." And so it was... Because I was walking around being annoyed by the weather and the dog that wasn't going to get enough exercise for the day. When we did go out I was so annoyed with getting wet and cold and the dog was running around me like crazy pulling on his leash. CRAP DAY! I was annoyed, wet, cold and smelled like wet dog! PFT! 

But.. today! It's raining even more..  and loads more wind... And I didn't even think about how it would be annoying to get wet from the rain ect... I took puppy out to play and run around in the rain for a while, we both came back inside and dried off, then cuddled up with each other and it was super cozy! And just as I sat here looking out the window thinking this was a nice and cozy day with my lovely dog I realized the irony in it... How I hated the exact same day last week, but this week it was wonderful! Stupid mind making me have crappy days when I don't have to... Fuck you brain! 

So I've now decided... I'm not letting that stupid brain decide if I have a good or bad day anymore! At least I'm going to try not to... probably going to be a bit difficult at times but ah well! Can't whine if you don't try to make it better huh?

From now on every time I wake up and  think for some reason this day is going to be bad.. I'm going to take 5 min to remind myself what I would do in this case if I was having a good day! And try do some of that same stuff! I'm pretty sure it will help! And if not... I will still have the right to say I tried!

(Cuddles with my baby!)