YOLO

"Kids" at the current time are completely misunderstanding this saying. "You only live once".

They use these words as an excuse to act completely and utterly stupid.

You only live once, so you should make the most of it, don't settle with having a average life unless that's what you want, go for your dreams and make sure you have a happy life with no regrets.

Picture all those teenagers who now use "YOLO" as an excuse to drink too much, take drugs, go home with someone you don't really know and have unprotected sex, 10 years later they will sit there thinking back to all the stupid mistakes they made, maybe with a child they had with a stranger, a STD that can never be cured, brain damage from alcohol or drugs... or maybe they won't even survive that long living that life. 

This is NOT making the most of your life, this is being an idiot who's trying to get themselves in serious trouble!

What YOLO is, is the principle of not saying "No, I'm too scared" to a dream you have all ways wanted to do, either to your self or anyone else! Don't let fear of the unknown stop you from accomplishing things in your life! 

When you are old your biggest regrets will be the dreams you never worked to make true! Make sure you try as much as you can to make your life what you want it to be so you won't have to look back and be disappointed in yourself. 

You will not be on your deathbed thinking "Yes I remember that party when I was 17, where I got SOOOO drunk and went home with that really cute guy! I barely remember what happened the next day but I woke up in his bed! THAT WAS LIKE SO TOTALLY AWESOME!" 

No. 

Just no.

This is a wonderful saying that tries to motivate people to follow their dreams and live a happy life! Use it for that! Not as a excuse to throw a rebellion against your parents.

The current way of following the saying is dangerous for your own health and others, not a way to be cool.

PS: I would like to add that even tho I mainly target young teenagers with this post there are many older morons who deserve a proper slap for still feeling the need to do this stuff.

Addiction

The word addiction should be split into two parts, one for the people who are physically addicted to stuff, drugs, alcohol ect... And another part for the ones that are addicted to chocolate, video games and such.

When someone tells me "I'm addicted to *****" I take that as a serious thing, as in you cannot go a day without it without feeling sick, even if you have a busy day where you don't have time to get bored and miss it you still feel sick from the lack of it. 

In my opinion this is addiction.These are the people I feel sorry for and want to help!

The people who say they are addicted to chocolate... It annoys me to be honest. I've seen a lot of addiction go about and to me it's a sensitive subject and I don't like it when people claim to be "addicted" and expect sympathy from the people around them just because they like eating chocolate when bored.

If you have ever been addicted to a substance that does not give you a physical effect from using it, let's continue using chocolate as an example for now: You have had a super busy day! Where you had no time to get bored and think "what to do now" at the end of the day, think back. Have you had any chocolate that day? Did you go around missing it all day? That's unlikely.

Some people convince themselves they are addicted to activities they enjoy, or they use the word "addiction" as an excuse to continue doing it. I do not respect these addictions to be completely honest, I am aware that the word addiction means : mood altering substance or behavior despite adverse consequences. So really it does cover it all! I can be addicted to tapping a pen on the table and making that annoying little clicking noise over and over... As long as I like it and keep doing it instead of doing homework, I am addicted!

But really can you compare this with being addicted to crack? Or alcohol? No! You can't. This is why there should be two different words for these completely different situations you can be in because one deserves a lot more attention then the other.

The "strong" kind of addiction, drugs and alcohol and such, these need medical help, not all become addicted to these either but you can actually get physically addicted to it, where you get really really sick if you don't have it, that's an addiction that you need to get help with and a lot of people continue having troubles with it their entire life.

This "weaker" kind of addiction is more of a mental addiction,  you want to do that instead of facing what you really should do, cos this is an easier way out.

It's not a medical condition that I will feel sorry for you for having if you just prefer playing a video game instead of doing real life stuff, it is hard to stop doing what feels better over what is hard work and effort. Video games are designed to make you want to play more, and do better, but that does not mean every person that ever plays it will get addicted, only some people do, mostly people that want to hide from reality, focusing on a game distracts you from other worries you might have and makes you only feel what is then happening in the game.

If it becomes a problem for you living your life because of a video game, is this an addiction that needs therapy? Or is the real thing you need help with the stuff that made you want to escape reality in the first place? If you focus your efforts on making your life better instead of playing this game then you will no longer feel the need to hide inside a game.

If your sad and eat chocolate then deal with what makes you sad, don't eat chocolate to feel better. This is about dealing with your problems and taking control of your life instead of dealing with the consequences of not doing it in the first place.

In general I feel if you just deal with your problems in life and don't tell yourself your "addicted" to stuff you enjoy doing but who has no actual effect on you physically you will be better off. 

I enjoy chocolate probably more then the average person, but I know not to eat it whenever I feel like it, it's simple enough that you resist your urge to eat it sometimes. Self control is not fun all the time, but nothing good comes for free. 

So the point of this rant... How can we call these two things addiction? The same word? It feels wrong to me. 

Change it

Are you really displeased with how your life is at the moment? Can't sleep at night because there is so much stuff on your mind that you could only hope to ever get off it!

You know what is the only way to fix it? Do something about it! 
Even if you fail at changing anything, at least you tried, and it's not like  not trying at all was helping either?

All most anything can be fixed with effort and time, but there is rarely a quick fix sadly!

If you want to change your life, only you can do this, and you are going to have to work hard no matter how little or big the part you want to change is.

You want a change? YOU have to change! No one else can help you, it's got to be all you, all the way.

ESPECIALLY if you are the problem, if you are not happy with yourself, how can anyone else fix that for you? Step up to the plate, not for anyone or anything else then for yourself, change how you think and in the end you will be happier.

If you manage to go through this alone, you will come out a so much stronger person that you would ever believe you could be! It's an amazing feeling when you can say you don't call someone else every time you don't know what to do, you just fix it, it's kinda called... being a independent adult actually!

When you are at a point where you fix your own problems, be the problem love, money, depression or anything else really, when you fix it all yourself, and you don't just sit around crying about it expecting some miracle to come along... then you my friend, are an independent human being! Go you!

Some people need to just man up and sort it themselves, and I am hoping that reading this will motivate some of them to do so. But odds are it will most likely make them feel a bit more shit about themselves and they will sit on their arse and think " I wish someone else could make me feel better now ".

If you get insulted by this and I annoyed you now, maybe you are one of those people who need to change something then? Because if you are happy with yourself you will simply nod in agreement!

Just want to add that I do not mean this to all people in all cases, if you get bullied or in real trouble, off course you should ask for help from other people! But I'm assuming people can see what I mean unless you are trying to look for something to say I was wrong about! :p 

And if you say you can't change, then at least don't whine about it not changing.